Parents

Supporting your First Generation Child

Families play a large role in contributing to the success of their first generation students. Here are some steps you can take to support your First Generation Student.

Step #1: Understand what it means to be a First Generation Student

First Generation Student: A first-generation college student at UH Mānoa is someone whose neither parents have not earned a 4-year college degree from a US institution.

Obstacles They Might Face

  1. Imposter Syndrome: a persistent self-doubt and fear of exposure as a fraud that causes many first-generation students to doubt their own abilities, discount praise, generate additional anxiety, opt for easier pathways, and to experience increased dissatisfaction with their lives.
  2. Pleasing Parents: Gofen (2009) found that the first generation have a desire to please their parents and don’t want to disappoint them and often have pressure to succeed.
  3. New Environment: Transitioning from high school to college includes selecting your own classes, having new professors every semester, and meeting new people. This can often be overwhelming for students and they might feel lost in the process.
  4. Mental Health:
    • Guilt- guilt about leaving their families is a common feeling first generation students might feel due to them potentially being a financial pillar.
    • Stress: adapting to a new living environment, financial needs, and academic pressure can be very stressful

Recognizing their Strengths

  1. Resilience to overcome obstacles
  2. Desire to bring pride to their families and community
  3. Persistence in their goals and dreams

More Information about the First Generation College Experience

What people get wrong about first-generation college students

First-Gen Lens: Assessing Mental Health of First-Generation Students

Step #2: Supporting your Child Toolbox
  1. Eliminate Guilt: Students often feel guilty about leaving their family and feel the need to stay sometimes due to financial obligations. However as a family member know and remind your student about the value of education. Studies have shown that those with a higher degree will make more money in the long run that can be used to support the family.
  2. Communication: Maintain open and regular communication with your student. Give your guidance and share your insight but allow them the freedom to make their own decision.
  3. Respecting your Student’s Decision: College, specifically freshmen year, is time for students to explore their interests by taking a variety of courses. Respect their choices surrounding their major, course selection, and even career pathway.
  4. Remind them that you are proud and confident in their success.
  5. Acknowledge that college is hard.

Resources:

Encourage student to use your schools resources: UH Mānoa has a ton of resources for your students to use. To learn more about what we offer follow the link.

Understand the value of getting involved outside of the classroom: Classes are only part of the college experience. UH Mānoa offers extracurricular opportunities that will allow your student to integrate themselves into the college community and enhance their experience. To learn more about what we offer please follow the link below:

Leadership and Involvement | Student Support | Division of Student Success – University of Hawaii at Manoa

Other Helpful Resources

Michigan University: Tips for Supporting Your First-Generation College Student